Ahead of her workshop on ‘Thriving in Private Practice’ on Friday 5th June, Jeanine Connor shares some of her thoughts on factors that might influence what fee we might charge for the therapy we offer. Feel free to tell us your thoughts in the comments section at the end of this article.
Written by Jeanine Connor
Question: Why might someone decide to become a counsellor or psychotherapist?
Perhaps they are motivated by a desire to help others and alleviate psychological suffering. Maybe they think the work will give them a sense of purpose and satisfy their need for both intellectual and emotional stimulation. Perhaps they’ve experienced their own mental health challenges and experienced the benefits of good support, motivating a desire to ‘give back’.
Each of these reasons, and many more, sound commendable and congenial. They demonstrate empathy and altruism, which are exactly the kind of qualities we’d want a counsellor to personify. They probably don’t represent the full picture.
I’ll pose another question: Why might someone want to run their own business?
Maybe they have a desire to be their own boss, with the power to make decisions and control their own schedule. Maybe they don’t like working as a part of a team and are better suited to independence. Perhaps they’ve experienced redundancy or been unable or unwilling to find suitable employment post education. Maybe they’ve experienced financial hardship, struggled to live their best life on a ‘living wage’, and been seduced by the economic potential of business ownership.
These reasons suggest a yearning for power and control, an aversion to collaboration and a desire for more disposable income. They probably don’t represent the whole truth either.
What about the counsellor or psychotherapist who is motivated to run their own business?
How do they reconcile the [sounds altruistic] passion for supporting mental health, with the [sounds self-serving] desire for power, control and money? I’ve over-egged the pudding somewhat to highlight the dichotomy, but the truth is that counsellors and psychotherapists in private practice must learn to reconcile their dual identities as care professional and business owner, which, on the face of it, have very different motivations.
Many of the dilemmas faced by therapists in private practice arise from this difficult dichotomy. How do we set a fee that feels commensurate with our expensive training, personal therapy, ongoing supervision and administrative costs that clients can afford to pay? How can we justify an hourly rate that might be six, eight, even ten times that of our clients? How can we charge for cancellations and missed appointments when our clients are experiencing financial hardship? Should we offer a sliding scale and, if so, how do we decide who’s eligible for low-cost counselling and who must pay a higher price to subsidise them?
How do we decide whether and how to invest in marketing and promotion? How do we stand out in a crowded market and compete with those whose services cost less than ours, as well as the ‘mental health support’* which is available for free, on demand, 24/7 from AI chatbots?
These dilemmas raise questions of value – the therapist’s, the client’s and the service offered – and solving them starts with us.
As imperfect, human therapists, we remain on the lifelong path to self-actualisation. As imperfect, human therapists, we might experience imposter syndrome, or crises of confidence in comparison to our peers – and in comparison to seemingly all-knowing, open all hours, robots.
Hopefully though, our self-awareness and sense of self are robust enough that we know our worth as therapists. This awareness grows throughout our years of training and experience, as we develop from newly qualified to senior status.
At every step of our professional journey, we need to be realistic and transparent about what we know and what we don’t know so that we work within our competency, attract the type of clients we are proficient to support, and charge accordingly. It makes sense that trainee therapists undertake voluntary or low paid work experience, supporting clients with less complex needs, while senior therapists respond to more complex needs and attract a higher rate.

We observe this business model across many other sectors – senior and junior hairstylists, for example, certified personal trainers versus unqualified fitness coaches, online tutors versus qualified teachers – and we expect the price to reflect the level of service, often with no questions asked. I think therapy clients should also expect to pay a premium for access to more highly qualified and experienced professionals because they have more to offer in terms of skills and proficiencies. As well as quantity (of skills and years in practice), we might expect fees to vary depending on the quality of therapy, in terms of specialist expertise and capacity to manage complexity.
Therapists might choose to specialise or diversify depending on their areas of interest, developed through experience within and post-qualification. For comparison, a bookkeeper is likely to charge less than an accountant; we would expect basic logo design to cost less than web design; and having an essay proofread will be cheaper than having technical writing checked by a copy editor.
I’m not saying accountants, web designers and copy editors are superior to bookkeepers, logo designers and proofreaders in a condemnatory way; I’m saying they have different skills sets, built through investment in training and years of experience.
Many organisations have tiered pricing structures that correspond to skill level, while others might offer a sliding scale based on complexity of the work or a client’s ability to pay; some even offer pro bono sessions. Therapists might adopt similar pricing structures too.
There are plenty of us to go around, and I think it’s important to acknowledge that we can’t, and shouldn’t expect, to be all things to all people. Maybe we shouldn’t expect all clients with all levels of need to pay the same for therapy either. It’s far better to know what we know, leave what we don’t to someone else, and charge accordingly. That way, we have a chance of getting the balance right, between meeting the needs of clients, and meeting our own need to thrive and prosper in private practice.
Whether or not the advice offered by AI constitutes ‘mental health support’ remains debatable.
Upcoming Workshop with Jeanine Connor
Want to find out more? The BTP Workshop on private practice: *Thriving in Private Practice*, will take place on Friday 5th June, 10am-4pm, with catch-up recording available if you can’t make it on the day.
Jeanine Connor MBACP, MSc, MEd, BSc (Hons) is a psychotherapist, clinical supervisor and presenter with 25+ years’ experience in the therapy world. She is also the author of 270+ publications including five books: You’re Not My F*cking Mother and other things Gen Z say in therapy (PCCS books, 2024), Stop F*cking Nodding and other things 16-year-olds say in therapy (PCCS books, 2022), and Reflective Practice in Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy: Listening to Young People (Routledge, 2020). Jeanine is the Editor of BACP Children, Young People & Families journal and Reviews Editor for BACP Therapy Today. www.jeanineconnor.com LinkedIn: Jeanine Connor.
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